asking and answering

If people did not sometimes do silly things, nothing intelligent would ever get done.

I want to learn to practice: selfishness without self pity, respect without submissiveness, assertiveness without defiance, pride without haughtiness, life without judgment for myself and others, and a love that lacks condition

It was really funny when I went the first time, I just said, “Hey I just kinda need to know what I’m doing so it looks effective on camera.” Then towards the end of it my hands were hurting pretty bad and I was like, “Is there any way I can take any precautions? I use my hands—I’m a musician.” The guy was like, “You’re a musician? Professionally? What do you play?” I said, “A little piano. A little guitar.” He just looks at me and goes, “Yo man, you can’t be boxing!

Did you say it? ” I love you. I don’t ever wanna live without you. You changed my life.” Did you say it? Make a plan. Set a goal. Work toward it. But every now and then, look around. Drink it in. Cuz this is it. It might all be gone tomorrow.

The reality is that fat people are often supported in hating their bodies, in starving themselves, in engaging in unsafe exercise, and in seeking out weight loss by any means necessary. A thin person who does these things is considered mentally ill. A fat person who does these things is redeemed by them. This is why our culture has no concept of a fat person who also has an eating disorder. If you’re fat, it’s not an eating disorder — it’s a lifestyle change.

I’d imagine the whole world was one big machine. Machines never come with any extra parts, you know. They always come with the exact amount they need. So I figured if the entire world was one big machine, I couldn’t be an extra part. I had to be here for some reason. And that means you have to be here for some reason too.

I’ve begun to realize that you can listen to silence and learn from it. It has a quality and a dimension all its own.

There is no more denying my feelings for him, no more lying to myself about control, no more weighing out the pros and cons, no more comparisons and warnings and walls. I’m tumbling and turning somersaults in the water, no way to know which end is up, which means certain death, which promises all the air I need to breathe.

I am going to dream about you the whole night, the whole week, the whole year.